Category Archives: habits

Lessons learned (till next time…)

This post may get added to,  as I identify (or, more likely, am reminded yet AGAIN!) what works and what doesn’t in keeping myself grounded and stable.

  • Alcohol and chocolate seem like a very good idea at the time when I’m in emotional pain, but they’re not. They give a very short spell of relief, then insomnia, an upset stomach and regret.
  • Sometimes taking my to-do list and saying that I’ll spend 15 minutes on the first item can get me moving.
  • Related to this, my “alternating” strategy of doing something – anything – then reading or watching TV can get me mechanically through times when I really can’t initiate ot find any energy.
  • Yesterday I went to bed in the afternoon because I really couldn’t get myself moving at all – nothing would settle me. I didn’t go to sleep, but spent some time reflecting on “Solitude” (see previous 2 posts), and it helped – new insights.
  • Compulsive checking of email and Facebook doesn’t make more people get in touch: it provokes feelings of disappointment and isolation.
  • Getting out and walking, even (especially?) in the teeth of a gale helps
  • Feeding my mind helps – reading or watching a stimulating TV documentary

Online mainline

 I’ve noticed for quite a while how much time I spend aimlessly online when I’m feeling unmotivated or lonely, and I’ve been particuarly aware of it recently – in front of the laptop, clicking between email, Facebook, newspaper, email, Facebook, Pinterest, Facebook….and each time there are no new posts there must be, whether I realise it or not, a small jolt of disappointment.

And when I’ve been out, or when I finish a task, I automatically go and check online.

I wonder how it would be if the automatic action was to pick up a book – which it probably would have been in the days before online. How much more I’d be reading! And no doubt that would be better for my state of mind than the endless online disappointments.

I’ve made various efforts to limit my online time, but always drift back to the endless checking. The idea of just going online after meals worked well: I’m going to try it again, and also make sure that my book is always within reach.

Changing habits is perhaps easier if the bad one can be replaced with a good one…